Many men pride themselves with the idea they can handle most situations on their own. However, it’s the tough times, such as a divorce, where men may need help the most. If your marriage is at the point of divorce, here are a few things you should consider.
Organize Your Finances
Getting your finances together is especially important when you decide to proceed with a divorce. If the divorce is amicable, schedule a time to sit down with your spouse to discuss the finances. Avoid hiding anything or doing anything behind your partner’s back. It not only reflects badly on you as a person but also looks negative in the eyes of a judge.
Seek Legal Advice
Since a lawyer cannot represent both parties during a divorce, you may need to hire your own attorney for assistance. A thorough and reasonable lawyer will help you throughout the process. There is a lot of paperwork involved with a divorce because of the negotiations. An attorney will help you with the paperwork, answer questions and offer you advice on how to proceed.
Focus on Your Children’s Wellbeing
If you and your spouse have minor children, it’s imperative that the wellbeing of your children comes first. Don’t badmouth your spouse in front of the children and do not put the children in the middle of your divorce. Come to a mutual agreement on the best custody situation for the kids. No matter the age of the children, a divorce affects them greatly and it’s not fair to make them feel as though they have to choose.
Just because your life has changed, or is about to change, dramatically doesn’t mean you should make any emotionally driven decisions. This is especially important when it comes to beginning a relationship with a new partner. Give yourself time to reflect on what led your marriage to end. Take a break from seeking immediate companionship by spending time with the kids or discovering a new hobby.
Talk It Out
Most men avoid confronting their emotions head-on and like to put on a more stoic face. However, a divorce can make even the most self-reliant guys feel a little vulnerable. Confide in someone who has gone through a divorce or speak to a therapist. Airing out your emotions will help you better process what you are going through.
Don’t let your past dictate your future. Get on the right track by seeking the advice you need during the dissolution of your marriage. If you need legal assistance, contact the Holman team for any advice or questions you may have concerning a divorce.
The Holman Law Firm is committed to providing the best legal service in Pensacola, Destin, Pace and Cantonment, FL, in a variety of legal areas including Family Law and Personal Injury. We specialize in Fathers’ Rights and will be there every step of the way to fight for your rights. Contact us now for a free consultation at 850-435-6909 or go online at www.holmanfirm.com.