In the early stages of divorce, many Florida spouses feel as though they are completely overwhelmed. It can be easy to fall into negative patterns of behavior during this period of time, as the stresses associated with the end of a marriage mount and the list of divorce “to do” items grows. When facing this scenario, it can be helpful to imagine oneself in the role of superhero, and to consider how one’s favorite crime fighter or masked marvel would react or respond.
Take, for example, the issue of discussing divorce with shared children. It can be easy to fall into a habit of speaking ill of one’s ex in front of the kids. This, however, is not the approach that a superhero would take, which would be to protect innocent parties from any negativity surrounding the end of the marriage. Kids should be shielded from the more personal details of the divorce, and parents should team up to ensure that both sides relay the same essential message about the shift in family structure.
Another area of divorce that could benefit from the superhero approach involves issues of fairness. Superheros value justice above all else, and justice requires a consistent application of fair practices. In all divorce matters, spouses should consider what the fair and balanced decision would be and strive to meet that standard at all times. Even if the other party is not following the same rule, a spouse who is fair and just can walk away from a divorce knowing that the best course of action was taken.
Divorce can be tough, and far too many Florida spouses fall into negative patterns during the turbulent time. By envisioning oneself in the role of superhero, it can be easier to make choices that reflect one’s true moral and ethical center, rather than reacting to the emotional strain often brought on by a divorce. At the end of the day, achieving a positive outcome is the primary goal of any divorce, and any approach that helps achieve that goal is worthy of consideration. Tights and a cape are completely optional.
Source: The Huffington Post, “7 Ways to Be the Superhero of Your Divorce“, Abby Rodman, July 14, 2015