Divorce is an emotional and sometimes lengthy process for many Florida couples. So many issues have to be covered and things can get hectic, even for children. It is important to recognize the emotions that children are feeling, even if they do not voice them. Children can often be unintentionally forgotten during a divorce. However, there are many things that parents can do during the divorce to make children feel included, and more importantly -- remembered.
Parents are often faced with a difficult decision at the beginning of the divorce process -- when and how to tell the children. Since the divorce affects the children just as much as the adults, it is always best to be honest and upfront with them. It is a decision that impacts everybody, and the children deserve to know. After the initial conversation, one should always let the children know what will happen during the process. It is important to ask how they feel and to let them express their feelings.
Child custody legalities can be another issue during a divorce. Although personal situations can interfere with visitation agreements, the goal should be equal time with both parents. Divorce should end with the child feeling as if life can proceed with as much normalcy as possible. Kids who have developed routines thrive, and they enjoy seeing their parents with set schedules as well.
After a divorce, it is a good idea to stay away from dating for a while. As much as divorcing parents are eager to start their new lives, kids are probably not ready to handle that right away. Waiting for the right time, and asking children how they feel about it first, is a great alternative to starting a new relationship too soon.
For Florida couples going through a divorce, it is ideal to have a goal in mind for the outcome. That goal should revolve around the children's ultimate happiness. Divorce can be a difficult process, but with cooperation and knowledge, the transition can be easier for all parties involved.
Source: The Huffington Post, Divorce: Remember the Kids, Tom Rokins, Oct. 31, 2013